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I hate talking with teachers about Student’s behavior and how best to facilitate interaction between him and other students.
It always goes something like this:
Teacher: “Student started helping a classmate with a problem, but when the classmate still made a mistake, Student yelled at them that they were lazy and must not care!”
Me: “Ok. That happens because Student doesn’t have an intuitive knowledge that what he’s thinking and experiencing is not what someone else is thinking and experiencing. It’s extremely difficult for him to put himself in someone else’s shoes.”
Teacher: “Oh, right. See that’s the compassion thing I was talking about—”
Me: “NO. Student has compassion, we see that in his eagerness to help others.”
Teacher: “Yeah, but the empathy just isn’t—”
Me: “NO. It’s not empathy he’s lacking. He just has a shaky understanding of other people’s consciences, can’t accurately guess what others are thinking, and therefor tends to assume others know what he knows.”
Me: “So, in the situation you’re talking about, Student noticed someone struggling and thought he would give them his knowledge so they would know what to do and not have to struggle. But once he told them what he knew, he assumed they now had the same understanding he had. So when they then make more mistakes, he assumes they’re doing it on purpose or refusing to listen to him.” So, you see he cares, he just gets frustrated and misreads others’ motivations due to his disability.”
Teacher: “So how can you get him to care about other people?”
This is a perfect illustration of why a lot of Autistic adults like myself maintain that it seems to be Allistics, not Autistics, who have difficulty “caring about other people”.
Jeebus fricken crapapple.
Except for the part where there’s someone there trying to explain and advocate this pretty much describes the majority of my educational experience.
All I want is an episode of My Little Pony where the antagonist is male pony with a fedora cutie mark who goes around harassing everyone for pursuing their own interests instead of dating him and then the mane 6 use the elements of harmony to banish him to an actual place called the friendzone and where he is kept prisoner until he learns to appreciate having girls as friends and see them as actual people.
Best episode idea ever.
Captain Planet (Captain Planet cocktail)
3/4 oz Whiskey (earth)
3/4 oz Tequila (fire)
3/4 oz Vodka (wind)
3/4 oz Seltzer (water)
3/4 oz Fruit Punch (heart)
Directions: Add all ingredients into mixing glass with ice. As you pour each ingredient in be sure to shout, EARTH FIRE WIND WATER HEART! By there powers combine! CAPTAIN PLANET! Shake and pour into a tall glass with ice.
Drink created by Aggressive Comix, as part of their Secret of the Booze video series. Photography by Holly Jo Photo.
Sam had noticed that at times a light seemed to be shining faintly within; but now the light was even clearer and stronger. Frodo’s face was peaceful, the marks of fear and care had left it; but it looked old, old and beautiful, as if the chiselling of the shaping years was now revealled in many fine lines that had before been hidden, though the identity of the face was not changed. Not that Sam Gamgee put it that way himself. He shook his head, as if finding words useless, and murmered: ‘I love him. He’s like that, and sometimes it shines through, somehow. But I love him whether or no.’